15 Dec Leigh Anne “That Nice Woman Sandra Bullock Played In The Blind Side” Tuohy recently posted the following picture and caption on her Facebook and Instagram accounts:
“We see what we want! It’s the gospel truth! These two were
literally huddled over in a corner table nose to nose and the person
with me said “I bet they are up to no good” well you know me… I walked
over, told them to scoot over. After 10 seconds of dead silence I said
so whats happening at this table? I get nothing.. I then explained it
was my store and they should spill it… They showed me their phones and
they were texting friends trying to scrape up $3.00 each for the high
school basketball game! Well they left with smiles, money for popcorn
and bus fare. We have to STOP judging people and assuming and pigeon
holing people! Don’t judge a book by its cover or however you’d like to
express the sentiment! Accept others and stoping seeing what you want to
The comments on both posts are full of people praising her – telling
her how awesome she is, how open-minded, how kind. Reading these
responses is completely baffling – like, did these people and I all read
the same words?
Let’s break down what happened here:
1. Two teenagers were sitting alone and completely minding their own business.
2. A white woman decides that based on the fact that they are
“huddled” in corner “nose to nose,” they must be “up to no good.”
Because obviously whenever Black people (especially Black men) gather in
public, it’s bad news for the rest of us!
3. Another white woman, one Leigh Anne “I Adopted A Black Boy So I
Can’t Possibly Be Racist” Tuohy, decides that White Lady #1 is wrong.
Which is actually the correct assumption for Ms. Tuohy to make, so I
guess this is where some people are getting confused because we see that
her intent is good, and that makes us want to believe that the action
that follows will also be good. She’s at a crossroad here – two roads
diverged, etc. Had she taken the road less travelled, Ms. Tuohy might
have said to her friend, “Wow, you’re being really racist right now! I’m
not comfortable with how this conversation is going.” Instead, she
decided to confront the teenagers who, as a reminder, have done
absolutely nothing wrong.
4. Leigh Anne Tuohy walks over to the two boys and sits there in silence. I’m sure that wasn’t scary for two Black teenagers at all, especially given recent events.
5. After what was certainly the most awkward ten seconds of those
boys’ lives, Ms. Tuohy asks what’s “happening” at the table. Like, other
than two teenagers sitting there talking like anyone sitting at a table
might do? Some kids are hanging out and chatting. That is what’s
Unsure of the correct answer to this question – other than “we are
two friends sitting together and not causing any trouble,” which
probably seemed too obvious for them to point out – the boys remain
6. Leigh Anne tells them that this is her store and they need to “spill.” Again, these kids have done nothing except be in public and be Black.
7. After being interrogated by this woman, and probably afraid that
at the very least she’s about the call the cops, the boys show her their
phones. This part just breaks my brain, like, these two kids had to
show this woman evidence that they are doing exactly what they seem to be doing: sitting at a table and having a conversation.
8. Apparently satisfied with the evidence the boys have presented her
with, Leigh Anne Tuohy gives them bus fare and money for popcorn, but
not before she has White Lady #1 take her picture with them.
9. Ms. Tuohy then posts this picture to social media and receives
thousands of responses lauding her for being such a good person.
Leigh Anne Tuohy profiled two Black kids, invaded their privacy and
interrogated them, but somehow people are behaving as if this is some
kind of wonderful social justice moment. No. Not even a little. This is
some fucked up racial profiling combined with white saviourism, and it
is racist as hell. Assuming that those kids were doing something bad was
racist. Assuming that she could take up space at their table was
racist. Insisting that they talk to her was disrespectful and racist.
Wanting evidence that they weren’t up to no good was racist. Treating
those boys as props to make her look good and then posting this picture
publicly (and honestly, I wonder if the boys consented to that) is
Also, can we talk about how problematic using the phrase “don’t judge
a book by its cover” is when it comes to talking about race? First of
all, it begins with the assumption that the “cover” (or in this case,
skin) tells you something unappealing about the contents of the book or
person. It also implies that there is something unattractive or bad
about the “cover” (or, again, skin). I can’t believe that I have to say
this, but: there is nothing wrong or bad about Black skin. Black skin is
not unpleasant or ugly, and to imply that dark skin might devalue
someone is really, really fucked up.
Black people aren’t things. They don’t exist just so that white
people can make a point about themselves. These are two real kids who
not only had to endure this woman’s microaggressions but have now had
their image splashed all over social media – the Facebook picture alone
has 150,000 likes and over 12,000 shares. Step away for a hot second
from this white woman’s narrative, and think about how those teenagers
must feel – having their privacy invaded, having assumptions made about
them based on their race, and now having a white woman use their images
to get praise for herself.
Now tell me again about how Leigh Anne Tuohy did a good thing.
One of the two teens involved has responded on Instagram (his name has been blurred out for privacy):
Person One aka Teen Leigh Anne Tuohy approached at KFC:
Yeah people don’t know what really happened because I actually
had money I have a job and have had one for over a year I was gonna pay
for my brother the other guy in the picture but he was insisting on
waiting on his uncle but his phone was dying so we were charging it
which is the reason we were in KFC in the first
the game was only a 3 min walk up the street I don’t see why she said
bus fare that kinda ticked me off a little but the way she worded it is
making us sound less fortunate and that isn’t the case at all & when
she came over to us she never mentioned her initial reason was because
of her friends comment im just now finding that out
May I ask how she asked for the photo?
Yeah she never actually asked for it as she was handing us the
money she was like “hey you know what I think this would be a great
picture” and everyone with her was yeah totally so we just kinda went
along with the situation like sure why not your Michael Oher’s mom but
the whole time I was thinking you know why’d she come up to us in the
first place I was still clueless up until she posted the picture on
social media and stated “the person with me said I bet they’re up to no